Catholic Dating: Your Most Frequently Asked Questions, Answered
Dating is already tough enough as it is without having to factor in religion. When you’re trying to find a man or woman that’s also a good Catholic, it becomes that much more difficult. If you are single, rooted deeply in your Catholic faith, and haven’t stumbled upon that special someone yet, you may be wondering if you’re ever going to find a person with whom to share a religion, love, and a life in which you can grow together spiritually.
When it comes to searching for love as a Catholic, there are some common misconceptions out there. If you’ve ever found yourself with some serious questions, be sure to keep reading and find the answers that may facilitate your quest for a meaningful relationship:
Does God want me to find someone? Most Christians believe that God has a plan; the frustrating part is that we don’t know what that plan is. The one thing we do know is that He wants each of us to find our soul mate. But you can’t just leave the process in the hands of God. If you truly want a relationship, you have got to put yourself out there and open your heart to finding your match.
Where is the best place to find Catholic singles? With the ease and accessibility that the internet has provided us, it comes as no shock that the web is a great place to meet Catholic singles. The internet gives us benefits like conveniently searching for love from the comfort of home and the ability to weed through huge databases containing thousands of singles. Not only should you take to the cyber realm, but there are also some more traditional places to find love: church, singles events, social activities, volunteering, etc. Get involved!
Is online dating for Catholics? Of course! Christian and Catholic online dating services are some of the best ways to find someone who shares your values and interests. These sites allow you to broaden your chances of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right by opening you up to people outside of your immediate community and network of friends. Dating services provide a non-threatening environment, where even shy people feel comfortable making connections that are based on compatibility.
Are internet dating sites safe? Online dating services are safe—when you use them correctly. To do this, follow the tips below:
- Never give out any personally identifying information: home address, place of employment, email address, phone number, financial details or last name.
- Plan a first date in a crowded, public place—never rely on your date for transportation. Be sure to tell someone where you are going and with whom. Never leave your belongings unattended and keep your cell phone handy.
- Listen to your gut and cease contact with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable.
How can I be certain the person I’m dating believes in God? To be sure of a dating mate’s Christian identity, keep an eye out for meaningful signs of a spirit-filled and genuine interest in God and behavior that demonstrates the obedience of God’s word. A single Christian person will try to live their life with the main goal of placing God and their faith above themselves and others. However, just because someone doesn’t lead a virtuous existence doesn’t mean they don’t believe in God—many do but have carnal mindsets, pursuing only worldly desires. Be aware of what kind of person you are looking for and how important a Christian lifestyle is to you in a potential match.
What are some general first date tips? Above everything, safety needs to be your top concern. When you play it safe, the rest is easy…
- Be honest and be yourself in all interactions—other honest people pursuing you for the right reasons will appreciate what makes you who you are.
- Don’t bring up any bitter issues about your past. Keep the conversation light and always maintain a positive attitude—remember, positivity attracts positivity.
- Engage the other person. Be sure to actively listen to your date, ask questions and give your respectful opinions.
Can I have sex if I’m a single Christian? The Bible tells us to flee fornication before marriage. If you truly want to lead an abundant Christian life, it is important to abstain from sex before there is a wedding band around your finger. God’s plan is to give you someone who completes you not just physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. If this is the kind of relationship you want, make sure you look for someone who holds the same ideas and beliefs as you.